There are so many ways in which our culture sends men the message that the only acceptable way for us to process pain is to inflict pain on people who had nothing to do with causing ours. because wounding people rather than trying to heal our OWN wounds is somehow the only way to be "manly".

At its most lethal, this formula turns some men into members of lynch mobs.

Not meant as an excuse for what that guy did. because you'd done nothing to deserve it.