Obviously, it's on us as whites to confront and end racism, without and within us- but there is a point of diminishing returns in the use of the tactic of saying, essentially, that even when white people are being actively antiracist. we can't play any other role but that of oppressor and enemy.
It's fair to ask: what, exactly is achieved by telling white people who are seeking, and yes sometimes seeking in deeply flawed ways, to make the liberation struggle their own, "even when you're on our side, you are never on our side"?