I realize my last post may have sounded harsh- but there was a need to be direct in the response to what you wrote. Every word of your comment was about painting yourself as the victim of intrinsically unfair expectations, and of implying that every response you receive from anyone who is a person of color is a personal attack on you and an injustice against you. Also, the last thing any white person has any moral right to say about themselves and the way they perceive and interact with people of color is "I'm not a racist". Whether any of us is a racist or not is only something people of other races can judge.