I never saw her as a "Nepo baby"- let's face it, essentially ALL casting decisions in Hollywood are random, totally subjective, and most are unfair- and there are the absurdities floated as casting ideas, like the time a studio was going to make a film about Harriet Tubman and somebody powerful in the room suggested Julia Roberts in the role because, supposedly, nobody remembered what Ms. Tubman looked like- and I've actually often liked her work as an actor, including SLIDING DOORS and EMMA- my issue with her was with incidents that read as snobbery, like the time a guy picked up her Latinx maid as she was walking to work at the Paltrow/Martin mansion on a hot day- a day that was hot enough that a person risked heat stroke walking to work over a significant distance- and dropped the made at the mansion, only for herself to chew out the guy for giving the maid a ride and chew out the maid for accepting it, under the delusion that there was a security issue involved- and did that when herself was more than wealthy enough to have paid for a car share service to pick up the maid.

Things like that, things like the amount of time it took Paltrow to learn that most typical women could never afford any of what she suggested or tried to sell to them- combined with a lack of public contrition for the economic royalism she displayed, were the real issue to most people, I think.

Paltrow's upbringing never really seemed to account for any of her traits, for that matter- her mother, Blythe Danner, has always come across as a level-headed, grounded, down-to-earth person.